So today I was all up in arms in women’s nether lands…..doing what I do best. But today was different, we were repairing the ravages that child bearing has on mothers, those who deliver at home, with no skilled attendants or those who actually have no access to medical personnel, the rest, those who entrust the beautiful job of child birth to untrained traditional birth attendants.
It all started yesterday, I admitted a lady with a recto vaginal fistula. What this means in simple terms is that her rectum, what transmits stool to outside the body is in communication with the vagina, meaning there is a hole and thus instead of faeces passing through the rectum and out through the anus, it instead leaks through into the vagina and thus the lady always had stool leaking. This usually happens due to prolonged and obstructed labor or in cases where a woman delivers at home by herself or with unskilled help and the baby’s head tears away at the mother’s “Nether lands” wrecking all that havoc.
In her case, 8 years ago she had a delivery at home. Unattended. Her husband was away and she was living upcountry. Soon after that, she noticed she was no longer able to hold her stool and she had leakage. She had had three other children prior to this, and all were home deliveries, I mean am sure she wondered why this last one would be any different. Am sure you’re wondering why it took her eight years to seek help…..I was curious too.
She told me; first and foremost she was ashamed about it. That I understand. But what came next broke my heart into very many tiny pieces…. Her husband abandoned her because of her condition….well, let me explain it. During sexual intercourse with her, sometimes he would go into the “wrong” canal….because she had sustained a very severe tear, the vagina and the rectum were almost one and the same thing and when her husband went into the wrong canal, she was in excruciating pain. To add insult to injury, you can imagine she ended up soiling herself, her inner garments, the bed… (I mean ladies we all know how clean and private our private biz is always kept). Secondly, she would not even associate with people because if she left the confines of her house, she would end up with a “stool accident” and you can imagine how she would be shunned if she happened to be in a matatu for example.
I looked at this lady, beaten and bruised by shame for eight long years. She had not a shred of dignity, let alone self esteem with her…she could not even pretend to smile, it wasn’t anywhere in her vocabulary, I can imagine her husband could possibly have abused her physically, mentally or emotionally for being a “dirty” woman…..well by just leaving her, spoke volumes and volumes. I can imagine how she lives with her kids, do they sometimes in their innocence ask why she reeks of stool? Her neighbors? Her relatives? Her fellow women? Until she heard the little announcement on radio, about leakage of urine and faeces following childbirth and where to seek help.
We sorted out the bad bad tear, the operation was like an hour long, by the time we were done, her perineum looked as good as new, better than an untouched girl….I saw a little smile on the corner of her mouth……..a fleeting smile like she couldn’t just believe that it was all over, that she could get her life back, a smile back, a dry vagina, a normal life….even get to enjoy sex once again.
If you know anyone with such a problem, in Nairobi, send them to VVF clinic, KNH, around Kenya, to any AMREF unit and around the world; hope the issue is not as burdensome as Africa. And to the selfless Doctors like Dr. W.K may God continuously bless you, in your footsteps I look forward to follow.